You’re getting ready to get married which is very exciting!
But are you also starting to feel some other emotions mixed in?
Are you stressed out?
I get it, I’ve been right where you are. Stressed about staying on budget. Hustling & bustling to make sure the bridal party has everything, that everyone actually rsvps , finding an awesome caterer, & simply planning a wedding.
Everything leading up to your big day is giving you grey hair.
Here’s some news for you though that you may not realize.
You don’t have to be stressed out from planning your wedding!
Why Getting Rid Of Stress Is Important
Affects Your Relationship
I’ve seen it time & time again with engaged couples.
The more stressed out that you are, the more likely you will take it out on your fiancé.
You may or may not yell & be mean. But odds are your behavior will changing.
There will be less time spent together & more time on planning.
As well as arguments over decisions that need to be made.
The show Bridezilla was created for a reason. There’s something in the air that changes a bride (& a groom) into a true monster.
And it’s stress.
You want the day to be dream worthy so to achieve it, you go overboard with demands & attitude.
Let’s avoid that!
Did you know that being stressed affects your health?
It can in a variety of ways. All of which can be avoided if you use the tips below.
Here are some example ways that stress can affect your mind & body.
- Muscle pain or stiffness
- Not eating enough
- Anger & irritability
14 Tips For Managing Wedding Stress
Find The Humor
Ever heard the phrase laughter is the best medicine?
Well there’s a reason for it. Laughter actually releases natural chemicals in your body that relieve stress.
So when you have those moments where you’re feeling overwhelmed try to find the humor in the situation.
Or think of something funny that you know will make you laugh.
Have a movie that never fails to make you cry in laughter? Now’s the time to turn it on.
Get Some Sleep
You’d be amazed at what getting a good night’s sleep will do for your mind & body.
If you just toss & turn once you get into bed then check out these useful tips for sleep.
Making time for yourself may be one of the biggest stress reducers out there. You don’t want to take on so much that you literally run your mind & body into the ground.
Some budget friendly self care ideas that you can start right away are,
- Drink Water
- Take a bath
- Start a good skin care routine
- Read a book
- Give yourself a manicure or pedicure
- Call a friend to catch up
- Binge watch a show
- Start an art journal
- Go for a walk
Turn Off Electronics
Electronics not only take our focus off of some things but they can also stress us out.
You may be waiting to find out if your photographer sent you your engagement photos yet. So you keep checking your email every minute.
Or you’re on Pinterest (constantly) scrolling & scrolling for decoration inspiration. Oh you found one but how the heck do you make that?
Then you scroll & scroll again. Find another? Too expensive?
Stop! Take a break.
Turn off your electronics for a bit, that way you won’t be tempted.
Go do something not wedding related & then later you can turn everything back on.
I promise it’s ok to disconnect for awhile.
Remember earlier when I mentioned how stress can affect your relationship with your fiancé?
It’s time to rectify that by setting some boundaries.
The guidelines are up to you. But here are some ideas:
- No wedding talk after 8pm
- Wedding planning days off Monday thru Wednesday
- Don’t undermine each other’s opinions on a subject
- Give your partner a chance to talk & listen
- Talking about the wedding isn’t allowed while eating
Go On A Date
Don’t let everything going on with planning your wedding make you forget that you’re a couple.
Set some time aside to still date each other.
Go out to dinner or visit an amusement park. If you want to save money then have a date night in or do a free activity like bike riding.
Either way it’s important to take the time to reconnect.
This is a big one & probably the most challenging for some of us. Including me.
We want to be so hands on with planning our wedding that we don’t let anyone else help.
And you’ve probably had offers right? I’ll wait a moment while you think back.
So those offers from friends, family, & fiancé that you’ve turned down, let’s go back & day ok.
If you’re worried that they’ll “mess something up”, then give them small tasks or clear directions.
Allow them to stuff your invitation envelopes & add mailing labels.
Have them run some errands to pick up lanterns & candles.
Or, if you still think they’ll mess up them hire a wedding planner. They’re the professionals who do deal with this stuff on a daily basis.
If you’re worried about planners costing too much then consider a day of wedding coordinator. They come on to your team about a month before your wedding
In that time they go over vendor contracts, timelines, & plans with you. Then the day of your wedding they completely take over.
All the decorating, implementing, & working with vendors falls to them.
Leaving you stress free to actually enjoy your wedding day!
Find A Hobby
Sometimes you just need a good stress reliever. And that’s what a hobby is.
It’s something you enjoy doing that allows you to physically work out your stress.
If you need some hobby ideas to get you started I’ve got you covered.
- Re-purposing furniture
- Cleaning & organizing
- Learn to play an instrument
- Take a dance class
- Make jewelry
- Draw or paint
- Wood carving
My husband used to tell me all the time to just breathe deep for a moment & I’d feel better.
It made me want to punch him in the face. (Sorry hun).
Although, once I stopped being stubborn I tried it.
Oh boy what a difference. Just simply taking a few deeps breaths in & out really stopped me from boiling over.
If you want, you can take it up a notch by starting meditation for beginners. Or stay in shape while working on your breathing with yoga.
You know that tingle you get when you notice that something just doesn’t feel right?
That’s your body & mind working together to tell you something.
It could be that you just need a break. Or that you really need to walk away from that DJ before signing any contracts.
Make A List
Sit down with your fiancé & prioritize what’s most important.
Having this list will help you to stay on track & not worry so much about all the small things.
What may seem huge to you, won’t even be noticed by others.
I learned this the hard way when I started looking at wedding favors for my own wedding.
It’s easy to get caught up on make a particular decision. You may be struggling on trying to decide between a dinner buffet, station, or a served meal.
It’s price vs guest experience vs type of food.
So how can you even begin to decide?
You step away.
Simply take a break from that decision or any other for a few hours or even a day or two. Once you’ve cleared your mind you can come back.
Now that it’s your turn to get married you may be tempted to look back at all of the weddings you’ve ever been too.
Or hop on social media & look at wedding stuff.
And while that may be a good idea to tell you what you don’t want, it can also bring on something else.
Making you compare.
You’ll start to see what somebody else had & you want that. Or you’ll see that Lisa is also have an outdoor wedding like you. But you have to make sure it’s different.
Don’t fall into this trap. Not only will it add to your stress level but it’s a waste of time.
Stepping away from social media or limiting the time spent on it while help eliminate that.
Let me start by saying this, it’s ok to say no.
Say it with me, “no”. See I feel like you just told me “no, I’m not saying that out loud”.
You have a lot on your plate right now. Planning a wedding, preparing to live with someone, working, the list goes on.
If you’re feeling pressure for others do more than you have time then say no.
It’s not mean (as long as you say it nicely).
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