A how to guide on how to word your wedding invitations.
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Wedding Invitations: An Insider Guide At Wording

One of the biggest questions that I always get from brides is what’s the deal with wording wedding invitations?

I admit when I first started learning about invitation etiquette I was baffled by all of the options. Especially when I was making invitations from scratch.

But there were three things that held true.

First, you have a choice as to which words to use on your invitation.

Secondly, you can have a formal or informal invitation. Just be sure it fits your wedding style.

All invitations involve the same elements,

  • who’s hosting
  • the name of the bride & groom
  • wedding date, time, & location
  • reception to follow statement
  • an rsvp card

Side note: There’s always the question as to which name to put first on the invitation, the bride or the groom. The answer is the bride. If it’s a same sex wedding then the couple can decide as to whose name will go first.

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Wedding Invitation Wording For Including Parents

Formal Wedding Invitation Wording

Casual Wedding Invitation Wording

Request Line Wording

Fun Wedding Invitation Wording

Wording A Wedding RSVP Card


Wedding Invitation Wording For Including Parents

Traditionally, the parents who are paying for the wedding are listed at the top of the invitation.

The wording would state, “Mr. and  Mrs. Alex Smith request your presence…”

However, you can list both sets of parents despite who may or may not be paying. The wording for that would be, “Mr. and Mrs. Alex Smith and Mr. and Mrs. Steve Rogers request your presence…”

You can even make it a family listing if everyone is contributing for the event. In that case your wording will state, “Together with their parents, Zoe and Jason request your presence..”

If there are parents that are divorced then the wording would go as follows, “ Mr. Alex Smith and Ms. Lisa Stewart request your presence…”.

If the divorced parents are both remarried then you would add their spouses to the line as well. It would read, “Mr. Alex Smith and Jane Smith and Mr. Steve Stewart and Lisa Stewart request your presence…”

Step by step wedding invitation wording guide

Formal Wedding Invitation Wording

Formal wedding invitations are generally worded using full words. There are no numbers to be used.

The wording for the time of the ceremony on a formal invitation is worded as “half after six o’clock” or “five o’clock in the evening”. Just like the example above from Blush Paperie on Etsy.

Here’s another example of a fully written out formal invitation.

Mr. and Mrs. Alex Smith request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter,

Hailey Smith to Michael Hawk

Saturday, the third of March two thousand nineteen

At six o’clock in the evening

Heart Of Grace Arboretum, Atlanta, Georgia

Reception To Immediately Follow

Casual Wedding Invitation Wording

Casual wedding invitations are more relaxed in both their wording and their look.

You can state date & time using numbers. As well as keep the wording more casual.

Here’s an example,

Together with their families,

Zoe & Michael,

Would love your presence in celebrating their marriage,

Saturday, June 1, 2020 at 4pm

The Grace Inn

5555 Love Lane, Atlanta Georgia

Dinner & Dancing To Follow

Request Line Wording

There’s always that request line on the invitation asking yours guests to attend your wedding. And there are several different options for how to word it.

  • Request your presence at the marriage of their children.
  • Request the pleasure of your company at the wedding of…
  • Request the honor of your presence at…
  • Invite you to join in the love of…
  • Invite you to celebrate with them
  • Would love for you to join them…
  • Would love your presence…


Wedding invite wording ideas

Fun Wedding Invitation Wording

I absolutely love weddings that are unique. How about you?

It’s just just something fun about it. That includes out of the norm wedding invitations.

If unique & fun is calling your name then you’ll love these 5 fun invitation wording ideas.

Getting Hitched

Zoe and Michael

are getting hitched!

Join us

Saturday, July 1, 2019


Printworks Vineyard

Atlanta, Georgia

Drinks & Shenanigans To Follow

I Do, Me Too

I Do, Me Too

Now Let’s Party!

Zoe & Michael

Invite you to their wedding celebration on

Saturday, July first

Two thousand nineteen

At 3 o’clock in the afternoon

Sunset Barns

1234 Wedding Avenue, Atlanta, Georgia

Dinner & Dancing To Follow

What Are You Doing?

What are you doing Saturday July 1, 2019 @ 3pm? Nothing? Great!

Then get on over to Sunset Barns, 1234 Wedding Avenue, Atlanta, GA


Zoe & Michael

Are getting married!

Booze & Food

Booze, Food, & Bad Dance Moves

Zoe Smith & Michael Hawk

Invite you to celebrate their marriage with them on

Saturday, the first of July two thousand nineteen

At 6 o’clock in the evening

Of course there’s eating & drinking right after

We’re In Love

We’re in love

Join us as we take the plunge

To become Mr. and Mrs.

Saturday, July 1, 2019


Sunset Barns

1234 Wedding Lane, Atlanta, GA

Reception to follow

Hope to see you there!

With love,

Zoe Smith & Michael Hawk

You can also create invites that tell your story as a couple. Like that adorable one above from Smitten Paper Co over on Etsy.

Wording A Wedding RSVP Card

RSVP’s are essential to wedding invitations. That way you know how many people to expect which in turn affects your wedding budget. You can either ask your guests to rsvp on your wedding website, or you can send them a rsvp card that they’ll send you back.

RSVP By Date

The rsvp by date should be at the top of the card, immediately following the word “rsvp”. There are several ways that you can word it,

  • Please rsvp by September 1, 2019
  • RSVP by the First of September
  • Kindly reply by September 1st
  • Your reply is requested by September 1st
  • Please respond by September 1st
  • The favor of your reply is requested by September 1st
  • Your response is need by September 1st

Guest Name

Provide a space for your guest to be able to write their name & possibly the name of their guest. The would be a “M” before the line so that a Mr. or Mrs. can be written in.

Accept & Decline

The entire purpose of the rsvp card is to know whether or not a guest is coming. So you need to make sure to provide an area to do so. There can either be a box for them to check or a line for them to mark.

Of course there’s also different wording options for accepting & declining too. Some of them are more formal & some are out of the box.


  • Accepts with pleasure
  • Will Attend
  • Wouldn’t miss it for the world
  • Graciously Accepts
  • Deal Me In
  • Yes, the party don’t start till I walk in.


  • Respectfully Declines
  • Declines With Regret
  • Unable To Attend
  • Will Celebrate From Afar
  • Sorry, I’ll have to say no
  • Sending Best Wishes

Remember that although there’s basic rules of thumb to follow, you can make the invitation truly yours.

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